So a female colleague at work was asking our opinion about whether or not she should go out on a third date with this guy. She was hemming and hawing and really looking for a way to back out. Normally she would have politely declined the invitation without hesitation but since they had mutual friends she was struggling with the decision. Then she blurted out that the third date is the “sex” date and since she wasn’t really attracted to him she didn’t feel like being bothered. When I told her I had never heard that before, she wanted to know how long I normally wait. When I informed her that I usually like to wait at least 2-3 months, everyone started laughing. One guy in the group indicated that after 3-4 dates if no action came his way, he was so out of there. I was really surprised because most of the others in the group seem to agree with him. Considering we live in an age where you can catch sexually transmitted diseases so easily, I’m shocked that people still continue to be so free with their bodies. Don’t get me wrong; if the sexual attraction is intense, I’m not saying that I wouldn’t have sex by the 3 or 4th date. But for this to be the standard expectation, I’m simple not down with that.