Stories from Match.com

February 26, 2004 in Dating

Stories from Match.com

Ursula Petula Barzey 0 Like Post 5 Comments

So I took the plunge a few weeks back and signed up for match.com. I figured, nothing ventured, nothing gained. At first I just set up the free profile. However, at the urging of friends, I paid for a 6 month subscription so I could take advantage of all the features offered; most importantly being able to communicate with the men who have “winked” at me. Below is an email exchange from one of these men.
He wrote:

You are a cutie and appear really sweet… I would like to perhaps open a dialogue…However, I am currently separated and living with the spouse and kids. I haven’t had had the time to clear up the living situation for various reasons best discussed over the phone… Part of the problem is time and the other is I am trying to reach an amicable split which takes time and patience.. However, I am exploring my options…be that as it may, that’s why I don’t have a photo online…

I wrote back:

Thanks for your honesty in the email. I’m intrigued, but thinking it may be best for you to resolve your current situation. Once that is complete, feel free to look me up. If I’m still on match.com, perhaps we can begin a dialogue. However, at this point, don’t think it would be in my best interest to even explore a friendship.

What the f**k? Do I have desperation written on my forehead? I can’t imagine that any woman looking for a serious relationship would respond warmly to this guy. But hey, what do I know.

5 Comments

February 27, 2004 at 9:22 pm

Ayaba

that message is the reason why i pulled my ads off all those sites. although i am no longer single i got tired of being hit on by the hard up still-marrieds but separated men old enough to be my father. that’s just gross and quite frankly a sign of disrespect. the worst part is that there are women out there who will fall for that crap!
February 27, 2004 at 4:29 pm

sasoozie

Damn Straight !! Ugh why did he even bother. He obviously hadn’t worked as well as being sweet you are also smart..
February 27, 2004 at 4:07 pm

eden

Hi. I found your blog via blogshares b/c it came up as similar to mine. Anyway, I had to comment on “separated but living w/ spouse.” Sheeyeah. I think I saw this guy on “Judge Judy” last week.
February 27, 2004 at 10:02 am

glenn

I once read somewheret that 40% of people on dating sites were married. WTF?
And pleeze pleeze pleeze tell this loser to take a hike :p
February 27, 2004 at 1:26 am

serenity

Geez…you haven’t even spoken to each other and he’s already coming up with excuses.
Too much headache too early.
Great, he’s honest but is he saying that in 6 months to a year he still won’t have this situation resolved?