John Donne the English poet and writer said:
…No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend’s or of thine own were. Any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee…
Basically, as Thursdays actions made clear, we all need reinforcement. We all need support. This I must remind myself every time I think about staying home and not making the effort to get out there and meet more people. I’m not shy once I get going, but finding the motivation and energy to make the effort can be lacking at times. Particularly since as I grow older, I’m more choosey about whom I’d like to be friends with. Plus the daily commute of going into Central London is quite exhausting. Most days, I’m out the door by 7am and I’m lucky if I get home by 7pm.
So by the time I have dinner and am relaxed, its time for bed again. But I know that if I’m going to have a more enjoyable time in London, I really need to make the effort. Plus I definitely need to stop looking back and hoping for things that may never happen. It is time to think about starting to date again. But before that, it’s definitely time to start making the effort to meet more people for possible friendship. I need to build my network. So I am setting a goal for myself. I have to attend at least one new event a week. Let’s see if I stick to it. Hopefully I can. Otherwise, moving here from Chicago without any significant change will become a wasted opportunity.