February 1, 2004 in Dating

Match.com’s Personal Attraction Test

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I woke up this morning after a vivid dream about having an argument with my husband. In that I don’t have a husband or boyfriend for that matter, and that’s something that’s missing from my life, I decided to finally fill out a profile on Match.com. I even went so far as to complete the personality and physical attraction test. As the results from my personality test were so dead on, thought I’d share. So here goes:

Who You Are
You’re adored, and for good reasons
You’re a woman with a very balanced personality and lifestyle. You believe in making room in life to relax, think, and have fun. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it’s expected of you. Love is the same way. You know what real love feels like and you’ll accept no imitations! You pride yourself on not being the “typical woman.” You’re more honest and straightforward than most women. But just because you don’t “wear your heart on your sleeve” doesn’t mean you lack deep feelings. In fact, you’re deeply committed to your loved ones and the causes you believe in. Women as truly balanced as you are very rare.
What’s dating all about to you?
Falling in love is a spiritual experience for you. A truly loving relationship helps bring meaning to your life. You try hard to make your date feel comfortable and have a good time. You’re good at anticipating what other people need and giving it to them. But inside, you’re usually on an emotional roller coaster. You don’t want to reject nice men, but also take it very personally if you’re the one rejected. You’re constantly trying to find the “rules” for successful dating but often find they don’t work.
Although having a vision of what you want can be helpful, the risk is that your high standards and rush to find the perfect man can get in the way of loving a real-life imperfect man. It won’t come naturally to you, but you’re more likely to find what you want if you can sit back, “go with the flow,” and see where dating leads you.

Quirks men notice
Like all women, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you “warts and all.” Though you have lots of friends, it’s important to have at least one person in your life who understands.
You have a pretty even-tempered personality and may not have any especially annoying or quirky habits. Of course, seeming to be “perfect” could be seen as a flaw by some, in which case you may just want to pretend to have a bad habit!
Do men like your type?
Notice that 40% of men are generally attracted to your personality type. 9% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches.
Who You’re Looking For
He’ll be an enigma
You’re looking for a man who can be a pillar of strength and stability in your life. He’s responsible, hardworking and successful in his career. You can definitely count on him to do what he says and say what he means. You’ll be impressed by how he can see the “big picture” and have a vision of what he wants to accomplish in life, while still having a practical and down-to-earth style. Although he can be charming and outgoing at times, you also will find he has a shy and quiet side. It’ll probably take time to get past his reserved demeanor and get to know him emotionally.
Overall, it’s important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you’re seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you, including:
No strong similarities were detected, which suggests that you may be more attracted to certain “opposite qualities.” Please read the next sections to see if you may be seeking someone with different or opposite qualities to balance your own habits and style.
Number of men your type
Men with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken this test, only 7% (or 1 in 14 men) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.
However, there’s a larger group, 30% (or 1 in 3 men), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. These subgroups are charted below.
Over half of the men have at least some of the traits you find attractive.
But you’d have a negative reaction to 8% (or 1 in 12 men), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike.
Finding someone like you
You want to share your life with someone who has the same values, goals, and style you have. Research has shown that couples who have more in common tend to stay together longer. The qualities you find attractive (and unattractive) in men suggest you would certainly be happier with a man who’s more like you.
No very strong opposites were detected, which suggests that you are most attracted to men who are very similar to you. This is good news since similar couples tend to stay together longer.
Quirks you can tolerate
The truth is that everyone is potentially “high maintenance.” We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a man who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your “quirks,” or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your “ideal” man:
You described a pretty balanced person as most attractive to you, so no strong quirks were noted. Watch out for quirks during dating, since they may indicate a strong quality that is hidden at first.
Downside of your “ideal”
In addition to his quirks, your “ideal” personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, his quirks can become serious “flaws.” But remember, these quirks are the “flip side of the coin,” or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:
Because you’re most attracted to men with balanced personalities, no troubling differences were noted. Nevertheless, remember that too much similarity can lead to conflict as well, especially when problems call for very different perspectives or actions.
Deal breakers
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the men you’re looking for, but there are types of men you clearly do NOT like. Men’s habits and attitudes you’d have a hard time putting up with include:
Men who are moody or overly negative.
Romantic sex
Good sex is important to you, but it’s only one of many ways you connect emotionally with your partner. Whether it’s sexual or simply an affectionate touch, you give and receive pleasure easily.
Among women your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 10 women (10%).
Is he sexually compatible?
You’re looking for someone just like you, who values the quality of sex over the quantity. You want someone who would never pressure you about sex.
What’s ahead for you sexually?
A good sexual match plays a key role in your “ideal” relationship. Your profile points to a very promising sex life with your future partner. If you can bring your natural creativity and imagination to the bedroom, your sex life will never be boring. You know what it’s like to emotionally connect with someone and truly make love (vs. just having sex). It will be hard (or impossible) to settle for anything less. Someone as loving and sensual as you should hold out for a man who shares your passions.

Well that about sums it up. Can’t believe how right on the results are. I suppose time will tell whether or not these things help me out on Match.com.

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