June 1, 2004 in Dating

Dating Rules

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I’m sure some of you were wondering what the hell was wrong with me after my last post. Well, let’s just say that I hadn’t really spoken to Racquetball Guy in like almost 3 days and I was starting to get worried. It was so out of character of him not to call. So coupled with the fact that I had absolutely nothing to do all weekend long, I couldn’t help but think bad thoughts. But I’m pleased to say that I’m getting back to my normal self. The work week is here so I have other things to obsess about, plus I finally spoke to Racquetball Guy around 6am this morning. According to him, he basically checked out from everyone around Saturday afternoon. I’m trying not to get mad about it, but I can’t help but be slightly annoyed. I was really worried. Granted he’s a grown man and can take care of himself, but when you’re in a relationship, it’s different. I think you should at least call up your partner and say you’ll be checking out for a few days. Truth be told, I might have encouraged him to come home, but in that he was trying to clear his head and figure out what he wanted to do re certain things, I would have accepted his decision to stay in St Louis. Lord knows that there are times when I’m in a funk when I don’t want to be bothered with the outside world. But aren’t the rules different when you’re dating? Shouldn’t you at least check in with your partner? I suppose these are the things he and I will need to work out as we navigate this relationship. It is only a few months old after all.


  1. June 2, 2004 at 6:26 pm


    Serenity: All the emotions you listed above I went through. More importantly, we talked about what happened once he got back and I have every confidence that it won’t happen again. And finally, you’re right — he is a good guy so I’m trying to be patient with him during this difficult time.

  2. June 1, 2004 at 2:30 pm


    I don’t know what the actual rules of dating are but I do know that it’s a sign of respect and courtesy to let someone know, “Hey, I’m taking some time to myself for a few days. I’ll contact you then.”
    Yes, I would have been slightly annoyed as well…(ok, I’ll be honest, I would have been worried sick and then, when called, hurt and then ticked)…I think it’s completely normal to feel that way.
    I just hope that when this subject is addressed, it’s done calmly and patiently…which, if your writing is any indication, you have that down. RbG seems to be a good guy so I hope you make the extra efforts that relationships require.
    I’m probably preaching to the choir but ya seemed down the past few days so maybe you just forgot for a minute.

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