Band Boy

February 12, 2004 in Dating

Ursula Petula Barzey 0 Like Post 7 Comments

Band Boy hasn’t called and I’m not going to call him. Somewhat surprised by his lack of follow-up, since we did seem to connect so well when we met up last Thursday. He said all those complimentary things and we made definite plans for this weekend. So not really sure what happened. This whole episode is just further confirmation that dating is like a foreign language that I may never speak fluently. Oh the rules! I wish I had better insight on men. Why can’t they mean what they say and say what they mean? Hmmm. I’m sure they probably say the same thing about women.

7 Comments

February 14, 2004 at 6:17 am

LWB

and the men always complain that women dont mean what we say or women talks in a language they barely understand..? yeah, right! ;p
February 13, 2004 at 1:30 pm

Shasta MacNasty

Hmm. So tell me, did he say he was going to contact you this week? If he did, then I suggest beginning the process of forgetting this guy. If something has come up, he could tell you. In my experience, there was no really good reason of why someone didn’t call me when they said they would.
Also, this is behavior he’s demonstrated before. How comfortable are you with that? For me, I take experiences like this very personal. It makes me feel disposable and easily disregarded. And if I want to feel like that, well, I could go to work. At least I get paid there.
February 13, 2004 at 8:55 am

Judy

If you are interested in him, call him. Screw the ‘rules’. You are not going to get what you want by sitting back and waiting for it to fall in your lap. If he’s not interested he’ll tell you. The phone works both ways ya know, he is probably thinking the same thing about you.
February 12, 2004 at 5:09 pm

Dragonslayer

What is up with folx not calling after what seemed like a good date. As you know, I suffered the same thing back in December. Two great dates and you can’t even get a callback. I’m getting angry just writing about it. I need a drink.
February 12, 2004 at 1:41 pm

Heather

I’d say – don’t call, it’s a matter of pride. But I’d be wrong.
If you don’t, you just won’t talk to him again. Pride saved.
If you do, maybe he has a reason, or a profuse apology, or maybe he’s just a jackass. Either way, you’ll know. Maybe you still have a date for Saturday. Right now it’s a definate no for Saturday. And if he’s a jackass, well, mystery solved.
The things we regret the most as the things we could have done. But didn’t.
February 12, 2004 at 2:55 am

Khandi

Eh, I probably wouldn’t call either. He said he’d call, he didn’t and even if he does sometime later, make a note of it because he’s bound to make more promises he doesn’t plan to keep. Just my $0.02.
February 11, 2004 at 11:21 pm

Kat

oh man! i was so hoping he would call. i thought it would be so great for you. i’m sorry.
my reaction would be not to call him, which i’m sure is obviously wrong. the best advice i can give about dating is do the exact opposite of what my perpetually dateless ass would do. so, maybe you should call. if u get a machine ask if you’re still on for saturday.