Advice from A Reader
I’m wondering how many of my readers agree with the following email send to me:
…I kinda feel like you should be giving IT guy a chance. Here’s why. Back in the day I dated the wrong girl for the wrong reason for far too long and it left me with similar baggage. Then one day my aquaintance Sam (name changed) from the liquor store asked me what was upo so I told him and he said “Harry (name changed), I want to give you permission for that whole think to not be working out and for you to let it go and get on with your life”. My reaction was “Jeez Sam that’s odd don’t ya think?” and he said “Naw, someone gave me permission like that and I got divorced and tings have been alot better for the EX and I ever since. So I am giving you permission” SO just let it go man, things will pop up to remind you of this or that which will be a bummer but you’ve got permission to move on.” Anyway, your post made me think about that and I was thinking you liked this IT guy and I thought to share my abridged story and offer you the same permission. Ursula, you have my permission to let go of that raquetball guy who wasn’t right, but had merit, and to go out there and live, and date the IT guy. Part of this is why you moved yea? Anyway, up to you what to do, will go back to the blog shadows now. Have a great day.
Part of me agrees with what this reader is trying to tell me. The other part of me says, you really have no clue how much I was hurt by the end of my relationship with Racquetball Guy and how unfortunately it has made me once again want to steer clear of anyone who appears to be in any way similar.