You Think You Know

I started writing a detailed line by line response to a comment left about yesterday’s post, but I decided it wasn’t worth my energy. Instead I’ve chosen to just delete the person’s comment from the archives. I initially shied away from doing that as I’ve always welcomed feedback from readers. But there comes a point, when the feedback is simply too hurtful and without merit to let stand. So let me say again, just because you’ve read my blog for some time, don’t assume you know me – particularly if you have not spent any time with me in the real world. What is written here is but a small snippet of my reality. It is heavily edited and almost always paints me in a positive light. This is not always the case with the extended cast of characters in my world. Truth be told, most of my recent days/months/years have been filled with joy. I have a job that affords me a comfortable life. I have an extended group of real world friends and have decent relationships with most of my family members. Now I have a boyfriend who adores me and up until this weekend had done nothing to cause me distress in any way. So when I have a day and/or days of sadness as most people do from time to time and choose to write about them, do not view this as an opportunity to knit pick at my life and make mean and nasty comments – particularly when you don’t have a complete set of facts. Ask me to clarify and explain what I’m feeling. Leave constructive and helpful feedback. Better yet leave and come back on another day. But do not come here and make hurtful generalized statements without any basis in fact unless you yourself have a perfect storybook life.

4 Comments
  1. I’m sorry that you received negative comments. I didn’t actually see it, but I agree that people should not be judging you based only on these pages. That said, I wanted to let you know that I have been reading your blog since I saw the Tribune article. Your blog is quit good and I am surprised that you are so open.I hope that those comments don’t make you change your outlook. I had never heard of blogging prior to this and have been debating the pros and cons of establishing my own blog.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts and ramblings in your blog.
    Ingrid

  2. Ingrid: Thanks for the words of support. The comment in question wasn’t completely negative, but it was long drawn out and overly critical and it just pissed me off. I guess I just got turned off by the assumptive and preachy nature of what she wrote. Plus, truth be told, it’s hard to accept that kind of feedback from someone you know doesn’t exactly have their shit together. I’m trying to have a full life. I’m interacting with the world. I’m not cooped up in my apartment trying to blame anyone or make excuses for what is happening or not happening to me. So perhaps I overreacted. Perhaps if the feedback was sent with a bit more tact (maybe sent via private email), I wouldn’t have been so enraged by it. Who knows. I just don’t want to be judged right now. Either way, maybe I’ll go back to talking about current events for a while and leave my personal private feelings to my real world friends and family. In any event, I highly recommend getting a blog of your own. But would advice against using your real name. If you do, be careful about what you say and do on there. It might all come back to haunt you later.

  3. anonymity is my favorite part of blogging. only a few select friends know about my blog, and i can count them on one hand.
    anyway, sorry about the comment.. unfortunately even with anonymity, my blogging has it’s limits. i rarely indulge in my personal emotions especially when it comes to relationships.. because not only am i telling my business, but also indirectly the other person’s.
    good luck..

  4. I’m not anonymous on my blog. That’s probably why I don’t put more personal information on there. However, I do think that we (the blogging community in general) have a tendency to act like we know people better than we do based on what we read. I try not to because a majority of these people I haven’t met and it’s hard to base an opinion on someone just by what they write. You are only getting what they choose to share with you and you don’t know how deep that goes. I don’t think you need to apologize for your actions because it is YOUR blog. What you share and the content is totally up to you.

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