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Travel Sabbatical

The line “leaving on a jet plane, don’t know when I’ll be back again” from John Denver’s song is on repeat in my head. Its a song about a man who is going on a journey and doesn’t say a proper goodbye to his lover as he doesn’t know when he’s coming back.
Not surprisingly, recent events with Basherter and RacquetBallGuy are to blame for me thinking about this song because like the character in John’s song, I sometimes take the easy way out. I leave without really ending things. Heck, RacquetBallGuy and I didn’t really break up when I moved to London. And if you ask Basherter, he’d tell you that my decision to withdraw from our budding friendship was somewhat abrupt.
The unfortunate result is that this seems to endure exboyfriends to me as they keep trying to coming back. Thus my recent desire to clean house and implement the no contact rule with all exboyfriends.
Heck, MrFixItGuy called me five time on my birthday and I didn’t pick up any of the calls. He called a couple times the next day and there again got no reply from me. So thinking he got the hint and now realises that I’m really serious about no contact under any circumstances.
I’ll apply this same strategy with RacquetBallGuy if things don’t work out on this go around. The situation has dragged on way too long and in a way, it’s perhaps held me back from really moving forward and being open to new opportunities.
Anyway, this song is also speaking to me as there is the allure of picking up and travelling without a destination or end date to the trip.
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Thus, why I decided to purchase a house three years ago is still somewhat of a mystery to me! I now view this decision as a moment of complete insanity as there is so much of the world that I want to see and having a property (which I know is a blessing) feels like a ball and chain around my neck most days.
Heck, one of the main reasons for moving to Europe was to do further travel, lots of it! The ideal base would have been Paris but since I’m not fluent in French and oh yeah, my then employer didn’t have a Paris office, I settled for London.
I’m not complaining. London is an amazing city to live in as its quite cosmopolitan and with easy access to continental Europe I’ve gotten the opportunity to visit some of the great cities I’d just read about in history books.
In the first two years, I did quite a bit of travelling. I went to: Barcelona, Amsterdam, Prague, Paris (three times), Vienna and Bologna, Italy. Then I stopped travelling after the Prague trip where my money purse got stolen. My fault really as I was a bit careless while shopping at an H&M store.
At any rate, I remember getting off the plane at Gatwick Airport and coming though the arrivals gate and being overwhelmed with emotion. There were lots of people there like the ending of Love Actually waiting for family and friends but no one was there to greet me and I was immediately filled with sadness and cried all the way home. Not wanting to experience that again, I decided enough with the solo trips.
Another reason for stopping is that when I went self employed during the height of the banking crisis, it just seemed a bit frivolous to take a holiday. Heck, I knew I wouldn’t enjoy it as I would be thinking about all the work that needed to get done. So for nearly two years, I took no holidays.
Then as you now know, friends talked me into going to Montserrat for Christmas and I went back again in June for a family reunion. And now here we are, with me itching to get back on a plane. Somewhere in Africa or Asia would be ideal. Perhaps I can give some consideration for my next big holiday – most likely not until Spring 2012.
Why not before? Well I’m back in the corporate world but thankfully not in the city.
Earlier this year, one of my clients convinced me to join their company full time. It’s sort of an ideal situation in that it’s five minutes walking from my house and I must confess that not having to do everything related to running a business is quite appealing.
Being self employed was quite rewarding but it was also exhausting. Not only did I have to constantly win new clients, but also had to do the work and oh yeah, chase payments in between all the administrative stuff. This is not to say that I wouldn’t go self employed again – would just make sure that it was a business that made money while I slept and there was residual/long term income from each client (so no consultancy!).
That said, I now get to focus on what I enjoy doing – marketing! Interestingly for a number of travel guides that promote four/five star hotels/resorts/holidays in exotic destinations. All of this adds to my desire to get on a plane and go around the world for awhile — maybe for as long as a year on a travel sabbatical! I’d then come back and write a great travel book like my hero Paul Theroux!
But all in due time I suppose as preference is to travel with a partner. I know I can have fun on my own or even with friends and family – but there is something to be said for seeing/experiencing new places with a lover/boyfriend/partner!

Why We Travel

Those of you who have been reading my blog for sometime will know that the title: Ursula’s No So Secret History is inspired by Paul Theroux’s book My Secret History. I don’t really have a secret life that no one knows about — I just want to document my personal history so that I could look back in time at my own growth and development.
In any event, one of the things that totally captivated me about that book which is part based on Paul’s own life was his travel adventures. Sure I found his sexual exploits and treatment of women he met along the way rather disturbing — but he made want to see the world — and parts of it that usually don’t pop up on top 10 lists of places to visit.
Now in light of the recent turmoil in the Arab world and even the recent earthquake in Japan, Paul writes a brilliant article for the New York Times about his own travels during past turbulent times and makes the arguement for us to continue traveling. It’s a must read for the adventurous traveller.

Why We Travel, By PAUL THEROUX, New York Times, Published: April 1, 2011
IN the bungling and bellicosity that constitute the back and forth of history, worsened by natural disasters and unprovoked cruelty, humble citizens pay the highest price. To be a traveler in such circumstances can be inconvenient at best, fatal at worst. But if the traveler manages to breeze past such unpleasantness on tiny feet, he or she is able to return home to report: “I was there. I saw it all.” The traveler’s boast, sometimes couched as a complaint, is that of having been an eyewitness, and invariably this experience — shocking though it may seem at the time — is an enrichment, even a blessing, one of the life-altering trophies of the road.
“Don’t go there,” the know-it-all, stay-at-home finger wagger says of many a distant place. I have heard it my whole traveling life, and in almost every case it was bad advice. In my experience these maligned countries are often the most fulfilling. I am not saying they are fun. For undiluted jollification you bake in the sun at Waikiki with a mai tai in your fist, or eat lotuses on the Côte d’Azur. As for the recognition of hard travel as rewarding, the feeling is mainly retrospective, since it is only in looking back that we see how we have been enriched. At the time, of course, the experience of being a bystander to sudden political or social change can be alarming.
Throughout history the traveler has been forced to recognize the fact that leaving home means a loss of innocence, encountering uncertainty: the wider world has typically been regarded as haunted, a place of darkness: “There Be Dragons.” Or as Othello reported, “Cannibals that each other eat, /The Anthropophagi, and men whose heads/Do grow beneath their shoulders.”
But it is the well-known world that seems particularly dire at this moment. Egypt has been upended, and I smile at the phrase “peaceful mob” as an oxymoron; all mobs contain an element of spitefulness and personal score-settling. Tunisia before the mass demonstrations and the coup was a sunny shoreline popular with European vacationers, and the chief annoyance to the traveler was the overzealous rug dealer.
The recent disaster-in-installments in Japan of earthquake, tsunami, damaged nuclear reactors and near-meltdown is a particular shock; Japan has long been regarded as one of the safest countries in the world. And now it seems a perilous place of inundated cities and contaminated air and undrinkable water. The earthquake itself was enough to inspire a sense of deep insecurity. And the idea that Christchurch, New Zealand, could be flattened and feel dangerous — this polite, orderly, beautiful, underpopulated, provincial, hymn-singing place — is yet another surprise.
Many people think of global travel as though presented on a menu, one of those dense, slightly sticky volumes that resemble the Book of Kells. But it is a changing menu, as certain places are “discovered” and others deleted. Libya is now a war zone, but only the other day the Libyan tourist board was encouraging visitors with promises of Roman ruins and cusucs bil-hoot (the Berber version of couscous with fish). Baghdad may have been the Paris of the ninth century, as Richard Burton described it, but James C. Simmons points out in “Passionate Pilgrims: English Travelers to the World of the Desert Arabs” that it has disappointed most travelers since then as, in their words, “a city of wicked dust,” “odorous, unattractive, and hot,” with an “atmosphere of squalor and poverty” — and these descriptions are from travelers in the 1930s, long before the invasion, war and suicide bombers.
Afghanistan in the 1960s and ’70s for all its hassles (gunslingers, scolding mullahs, ancient buses, bowel-shattering cuisine) was astonishingly rich in tradition, ancient pieties and dramatic landscape, shimmering with the still-intact Buddha sculptures in Bamiyan, and penetrated with the sense of the medieval. There were robes, ragged turbans, daggers and even a certain dusty romance — dark eyes peeking from a Shmoo-like burqa. Kiss that goodbye. I well remember the jolting bus ride from the border city of Meshhad in Iran, the walk across the stony frontier to Islamic Qaleh, and finally the small-scale magnificence of the ancient city of Herat. It will be a long time before any farang with a backpack takes that bus ride again. And in Pakistan, the stupendous Greco-Buddhist ruins of Gandharan monasteries in and around Taxila, not far from Peshawar — only a dozen years ago a must-see spot — are now unvisited except by jihadis whose only mission is to deface them.
For the modern traveler there are recent and sharp reversals — the overthrow of longstanding governments, earthquakes, a volcano, the release of radioactivity into a blue sky and cows’ milk — all in the span of a few months. What then is the traveler to do except huddle and observe?
Tourists have always taken vacations in tyrannies — Tunisia and Egypt are pretty good examples. The absurd dictatorship gives such an illusion of stability that the place is often a holiday destination. Myanmar — yet another place recently traumatized by a deadly earthquake — is a classic example of a police state that is also a seemingly well-regulated country for sightseers, providing they don’t look too closely. (The Burmese guides are much too terrified to confide their fears to their clients.) Kenya’s 24 years under the kleptocracy of President Daniel arap Moi, which ended in 2002, never discouraged safari-goers, and in fact might have encouraged them to believe they were safe with so many conspicuous cops around. It is only relatively recently that tourists and hunters have begun to stay away from Zimbabwe. At a time when President Mugabe was starving and jailing his opponents in the ’90s, visitors to the country were applying for licenses to shoot elephants and having a swell time in the upscale game lodges.
By contrast, the free-market-inspired, somewhat democratic, unregulated country can make for a bumpy trip, and a preponderance of rapacious locals. The Soviet Union, with nannying guides, controlled and protected its tourists; the new Russia torments visitors with every scam available to rampant capitalism. But unless you are in delicate health and desire a serious rest, none of this is a reason to stay home.
“YOU’D be a fool to take that ferry,” people — both Scottish and English — said to me in the spring of 1982 when I set off at Stranraer in Scotland for Larne in Northern Ireland. I was making my clockwise journey around the British coast for the trip I later recounted in “The Kingdom by the Sea.” At the time and for more than 10 years later, a particularly vicious sort of sectarian terror was general all over Ulster.
How do I know this? I was there, keeping my head down, eating fish and chips, drinking beer and observing the effects of this confederacy of murderous dunces, the splinter groups, grudge bearers and criminal hell-raisers of the purest ignorance. “I’m a Muslim!” a man cries out in a Belfast street in a dark joke that was going around at the time. And his attackers demand to know, “Are you a Catholic Muslim or a Protestant Muslim?”

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How Many Have You Visited?

I’ve visited 30 states in the Union. These are highlighted below in red. Thinking I’ll set a personal goal to try and visit the other 20 before I’m 45. That gives me almost 12 years.



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Travel Map found over at Red Ted Keeps a Diary.