Sometimes the path others want you to take, or heck, even you may think you want to take isn’t right. And so you’ve got to be true to yourself whether personally or professionally as no one can live your life. It isn’t easy, but I truly believe that time and destiny will make everything right.
Thankfully, I have never been in a physically abusive relationship. But I have unfortunately been in some emotionally abusive ones. And so I’m somewhat sympathetic with Rihanna who is clearly still in love with Chris Brown. Where it not for the media, I’m sure they’d still be together. The end of that love affair came to a crashing end not by her choice or even Chris’, but by public pressure to do the right thing — to set a positive example for other girls.
But are celebrities like her really the appropriate role models for love and living a good life? Not so sure. Anyway, here she is in her native Barbados talking to Oprah about her life so far. She seems charming and down to earth.
(FULL VIDEO) Oprah's Next Chapter: Rihanna |… by Ashley_Miller_3
Also, what is abundantly clear is that she is just like most of us who have a simple desire to be LOVED unconditionally. Rich, poor, celebrity or average joe, we all want love.
Oh to be in love with someone, but be afraid to truly let them in. Adele say it best:
“One And Only”
You’ve been on my mind
I grow fonder every day,
Lose myself in time
Just thinking of your face
God only knows
Why it’s taken me so long
To let my doubts go
You’re the only one that I want
I don’t know why I’m scared, I’ve been here before
Every feeling, every word, I’ve imagined it all,
You never know if you never try
To forgive your past and simply be mine
I dare you to let me be your, your one and only
Promise I’m worthy to hold in your arms
So come on and give me a chance
To prove that I’m the one who can
Walk that mile until the end starts
If I’ve been on your mind
You hang on every word I say
Lose yourself in time at the mention of my name
Will I ever know how it feels to hold you close?
And have you tell me whichever road I choose you’ll go
I don’t know why I’m scared ’cause I’ve been here before
Every feeling, every word, I’ve imagined it all,
You’ll never know if you never try
To forgive your past and simply be mine
I dare you to let me be your, your one and only
I promise I’m worthy to hold in your arms
So come on and give me a chance
To prove that I’m the one who can
Walk that mile until the end starts
I know it ain’t easy
Giving up your heart
I know it ain’t easy
Giving up your heart
(Nobody’s perfect, trust me I’ve learned it)
I know it ain’t easy, giving up your heart
(Nobody’s perfect, trust me I’ve learned it)
I know it ain’t easy, giving up your heart
I know it ain’t easy
Giving up your heart
I know it ain’t easy
Giving up your heart
So I dare you to let me be your, your one and only
I promise I’m worthy to hold in your arms
So come on and give me a chance
To prove that I’m the one who can
Walk that mile until the end starts
Come on and give me a chance
To prove that I’m the one who can
Walk that mile until the end starts.
Today I celebrate my forty-second birthday. This is significant as my mother died at this age. And so this age has been ingrained in my brain. I dreaded its arrival while at the same time I couldn’t wait to move beyond this number as in a weird way, I felt like I needed to reach this age before life could really begin. So can’t wait for it all to happen. While things have progressed, on the personal front (dating/relationships/family), they have also been at a standstill for the last decade or so. Shame really. But hey, no time like the present to carpe diem. So LORD whatever is in store, know that I am ready. FINALLY!
I still think of SalsaMan and I’m totally annoyed by that. Irritated because he was only in my life for a short period of time so really – what is this longing? I don’t really think it’s for him personally but more what he represented. That being, the future filled with laughter, a wider circle of friends and an extended family. He came on strong offering all of that and much more and then snatched it back. How cruel.
But annoyed as I am by the situation, I can’t bring myself to call him. Well actually, I can’t anymore because in addition to deleting his photos and messages, I also deleted his number. I didn’t want the temptation. So here I am still wondering, what really happened? Christ! I should have made an attempt to get some answers to bring about closure.
Then again, do I really need him to tell me what is now painfully obvious? Geez! Why do I do this to myself? I’m very good at holding it together in all other areas of my life but when it comes to boys I lose perspective. Perhaps I simply have too much time on my hands. I need to get busier.
