Loneliness

I’ve been thinking about writing a post on loneliness for some time, but I just can’t find the words. Perhaps because I’m surrounded by so many people that it seems weird to confess that I’m lonely. And it’s really starting to bother me as this really isn’t how I imaged my life would be; and perhaps not how others perceive my life to be. After all, I’ve got over 1,000 friends on Facebook about 95% of whom I actually do know in real life. Also, my phone has a few hundreds contacts. Yet there is often an intense feeling of loneliness, even when I’m in a room completely surrounded by people. I find this extremely baffling and so I take solace in the words below by Maya Angelou who continually offers so much insight and wisdom.

Loneliness

Touched by an Angel
We, unaccustomed to courage
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.

Love arrives
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls.

We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love’s light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free.

3 Comments
  1. Yes its possible to be surrounded and lonely. Takes courage to admit it, now you will find that opportunities for you to work out that loneliness. Hugs.

  2. Yes. It is hard and scary to let people in, but until we do that loneliness will remain. The joy and pain of being social creatures?

  3. Totally agree that one has to be more outgoing and make the effort to get to know others. However, one of the challenges I’m having here in London is that the population is quite transient. So you get close to people but then they move on and then you have to start all over again. It’s exhausting and really why some days I really miss Chicago. As after putting in the work during the early years, I developed a solid group of friends there. That hasn’t been the case here in London. Most of my contacts are work related and while it’s ok to socialise with them, I never really let my guard down. Thus something has got to change so I suppose me owning up to the situation is the first step.

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